Three things now stand between us and making the transition to Canada: getting my mom settled, and closing down her apartment; subletting my apartment; and making an inventory of everything that we might want to take to Canada, now or later. I've accepted the invitation of my daughter in Yonkers for Thanksgiving, as I doubt that we'll be in a position to leave before then.
After a few days of emails back and forth, and a few tears, my sister and I were able to agree on a plan. Since I have been managing Mom's finances and keeping the records, I will continue to be the financial guarantor and take whatever risk there is (what if Mom is denied Medicaid when the time comes, that is, when she runs out of money in a year or so?). Margie will visit Mom at the nursing home very near her house and provide ongoing emotional support, along with my son and other relatives in Boston. I finished the nursing home application today and sent it off, hoping that it will be processed fairly quickly so that we can all move on. Mom's care at home is becoming increasingly difficult to manage with the equipment and staff we have been using.
Fumiko is now healthy, but is alternately restless and lethargic. She doesn't have many friends left in New York, and no legitimate occupation other than packing up stuff in the apartment, and I guess she had her fill of that already in Japan. We have been thinking of taking a trip to Canada so that she can get an idea of it -- she's never been there -- and we went so far as to make reservations for a cheap flight last night. But overnight I worried that a visit might actually make things worse -- no resolution of anything, can't actually get a job or an apartment right now, etc. This morning, Fumiko said that she could go to Toronto (and maybe Niagara Falls on the way) on her own and look around. If she goes by train (which she loves), she could just stay as long as she needs to, without making advance return reservations. This plan seemed to energize her, and it's fine with me. I have a lot to do here just now. So I canceled the air reservations, and I'll let her make arrangements.
Last week we went to see "Three Mo' Tenors" at the Little Shubert Theatre and both enjoyed it. We also watch a lot of TV, and Fumiko has gotten me addicted to sudoku puzzles! The apartment is still in complete chaos. We are putting a few things up for sale on eBay and see how they do.
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